tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post2445343083990335852..comments2023-09-29T04:55:41.715-06:00Comments on A Deliberate Life: what it means to be thin.....Christinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13708815560712267698noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-4444318740230776392011-09-11T17:13:23.952-06:002011-09-11T17:13:23.952-06:00I wonder if I will ever forget what it feels like ...I wonder if I will ever forget what it feels like to be fat....I'm down 66 pounds...well 61 pounds now, as I gained while on vacation. With this extra 5 pounds, I feel the old feelings of self hatred, fear of fitting into seats and my clothes, fear of ridicule etc. All this with just 5 extra pounds. I tell you...I'm very motivated to get these pounds off and get back to my health and fitness plan. I feel terrible right now....<br /><br />Keep focused!!Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03722527731126817253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-75129070351752649952011-09-09T12:38:21.182-06:002011-09-09T12:38:21.182-06:00AMEN!AMEN!MBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01430150187237706515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-43363428186909699052011-09-09T10:40:38.929-06:002011-09-09T10:40:38.929-06:00Hi Chris, my sister brought dme to you this mornin...Hi Chris, my sister brought dme to you this morning, I am exactly 264.8 lbs. and am 5" 4'right now. I had the lapband put in 2 years ago and found a way to eat around it. I have seen alot of people lose an enourmous amount of weight with no surgery and always wonder "how did they do that?" I was very inspired to see the pictures that you have posted, the change is amazing. I hope to follow in your footsteps very soon! Thanks for the inspiration!!Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14194658482023153847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-50079133113409106822011-09-09T03:57:10.503-06:002011-09-09T03:57:10.503-06:00it means, to me, precisely what you said: I AM WOR...it means, to me, precisely what you said: I AM WORTH THE TIME AND EFFORT.<br /><br />I remind myself of that phrase with all things that feel challenging in my life.<br /><br />MizFitcarlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00218359443068688873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-68740292903947866392011-09-08T22:16:00.996-06:002011-09-08T22:16:00.996-06:00Yet another awesome post Chris, as usual. The comm...Yet another awesome post Chris, as usual. The comments were awesome as well! =) I feel that I'm finally starting to become VISIBLE again. It sometimes seems as if I don't even EXIST when I'm over weight. Like I'm not worth even looking at or acknowledging...Susyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06909338557369149702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-65964609885089067372011-09-08T20:47:06.190-06:002011-09-08T20:47:06.190-06:00just came across your blog tonight, what a touchin...just came across your blog tonight, what a touching entry. I'm not sure I can say I've let my weight affect me in the same way it affected you but it definitely HAS affected me and kept me from doing certain things. Your transformation is amazing and I have a lot of reading up on your blog entries to do :0)Carbie Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01848973885005198860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-20968639679205548962011-09-08T18:01:40.987-06:002011-09-08T18:01:40.987-06:00Bravo.Bravo.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14932408372240147454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-83172374233795270662011-09-08T13:12:35.439-06:002011-09-08T13:12:35.439-06:00Two people have told me this week that they've...Two people have told me this week that they've kind of forgotten what it felt like to be fat. Now, they weren't all that fat, but still, they are enjoying being thin.<br /><br />This is such an important post, because some bloggers are fond of saying that weight loss will not solve all your problems. Now, you'd have to be stupid to think that it would magically transform every area of your life, but it certainly changes many areas. So either those people were just not very aware, or they were still emotionally attached to their weight. I know for a fact that even a 20 pound weight loss would make a huge difference for me and I am determined to enjoy every step of the way.Hanliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16476650601531649816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-44513351289697341652011-09-08T07:20:53.620-06:002011-09-08T07:20:53.620-06:00I would like those post a hundred times if I could...I would like those post a hundred times if I could!Tonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08717833157776136993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-25657943175321897252011-09-07T14:26:10.000-06:002011-09-07T14:26:10.000-06:00This is so powerful. I'm just getting started...This is so powerful. I'm just getting started on this journey but I've already noticed that I'm willing to stick up for myself more. Caring for yourself physically seems to lead to nurturing yourself mentally too, and it's a wonderful thing."KT"https://www.blogger.com/profile/13630296359853551814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-8670465772511526672011-09-07T12:43:43.884-06:002011-09-07T12:43:43.884-06:00Very well said, Chris. This past weekend someone ...Very well said, Chris. This past weekend someone in the family was very unfair to me in their comments. Granted, this person was processing a personal crisis, but chose to "get on my case" because of something I had said that was innocent and they knew it. I realized it was a case of displaced anger. This person who was rude to me has done this before when stressed. Why me? I asked a few people, and they don't understand it either. I think I know. I am an easy target beause I am overweight, and I wear my sadness and lack of self esteem on my face. I don't like to be a victim, but being a doormat for the anger of others makes it easy if we are ashamed of what we look like. I think that's me. That has to change. It's not good for me or for a couple of family members who use my weakness.E. Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04079110676794095541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-90115860235266058842011-09-07T12:35:49.325-06:002011-09-07T12:35:49.325-06:00It is wonderful to revisit the 'other side of ...It is wonderful to revisit the 'other side of the wall'. You're right, you do tend to forget in a way. <br />Although I was never too far from "average", there were things I notice now that I wasn't doing for myself when I was heavier. My hair looked greasy and stringy, my clothes were sad, etc. My husband and I laugh at the idea of looking at old photos and wishing you were still young. We both look better now! It's so much more than the weight.<br />And I do agree with some of those who have commented here about the 'fat rants'. My mother was a horrendous yo-yo dieter and would have times when she declared that she would rather be 'fat & happy', yet I knew she never really was happy at all. Society may treat people harshly that are fat, yet I do understand that sometimes some judgement can kick a person into gear even if it is for the wrong reasons. It may not be fair, but then life is NOT fair.'Yellow Rose' Jasminehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12496382898548158316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-69631677337083841732011-09-07T10:02:41.558-06:002011-09-07T10:02:41.558-06:00I read this and understood every word all too well...I read this and understood every word all too well. I live on the other side, down 170lbs myself. I'm going to say something very "un-PC" that this post reminded me of. The emergence in the last few years of the "sassy, proud, in-your-face" fat girl. Everytime I see another one of those "fat rants" online, I think it's a lie. I think it's a self-deception. I think it's a surrender, a resignation to accept something it's been decided can't be changed. <br /><br />Every person has value, every person deserves respect. But I separated my identity from my weight. I always knew the person I was inside but I also accepted the reality that other people wouldn't see and embrace and respect that person if fat blocked their view and made them biased and judgmental. I didn't want to make a "fat rant" video or blog. I wanted to get the weight off me. But I also wanted to be physically comfortable and capable and HEALTHY. I was on seven prescriptions when I was fat.<br /><br />There are a lot more BETTER reasons to lose weight than to change your looks and the way the world will look at you. I'm so healthy now I've kind of forgotten what it used to be like to live in that bulky and limited body. But every day I do notice the little things about how I fit into society now. And I do remember all too clearly what it was like when I didn't fit in.Dagnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14928337092304061390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-85334943605774820032011-09-07T09:26:51.287-06:002011-09-07T09:26:51.287-06:00Can't wait till I get there too!Can't wait till I get there too!Fatoutofskinnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07213572384871459096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-73631542467300144892011-09-07T05:06:16.675-06:002011-09-07T05:06:16.675-06:00Amen. I think of all the times I felt bad about ha...Amen. I think of all the times I felt bad about having a difference of opinion because I thought my opinions had no value because I was fat. I can identify with each of the points you made in your post from the old days. We have been second class citizens long enough. We have taken the back seat long enough. I am so happy that we get out there and live without apologizing for it.downsizershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10936040379217292517noreply@blogger.com