tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post6449789586384641579..comments2023-09-29T04:55:41.715-06:00Comments on A Deliberate Life: The way of the warriorChristinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13708815560712267698noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-65513097007666922752015-06-12T11:35:56.562-06:002015-06-12T11:35:56.562-06:00Yes, or if you are already in it..it can help you ...Yes, or if you are already in it..it can help you break free.Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13708815560712267698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-21673699345442855172015-06-12T09:19:31.509-06:002015-06-12T09:19:31.509-06:00Thanks Christine now I get it... by getting physic...Thanks Christine now I get it... by getting physically and mentally stronger, one will not surrender to abuse in the first place. Richardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08738870796987568040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-29465491832294909152015-06-12T08:41:35.656-06:002015-06-12T08:41:35.656-06:00@fred..I call that deciding by not deciding. Stil...@fred..I call that deciding by not deciding. Still getting beat...I call that feeing internally. Not accepting that what is happening is really happening. It's very damaging. Hope you are not in that situation.Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13708815560712267698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-74447868186243554642015-06-12T08:16:35.312-06:002015-06-12T08:16:35.312-06:00Oh Richard, I absolutely agree with you...not sur...Oh Richard, I absolutely agree with you...not sure where the disconnect happened..by mental or spiritual flight, I mean their will to fight gets and and leaves..by physical flight, sometimes it's the better part of valor to not take part. In a physically abusive relationship..the person should absolutely leave. You don't stay in a physically violent relationship. My mom fighting and defending herself was not optimal, she should have left..but while physically tough...my mother had not set in boundaries on emotional space...she should have known she was worth more and set personal limits on how others were allowed to treat her. For me, fighting means fighting for yourself. Fighting for your space...fighting for your right to exist happy. The only problem I see with fleeing..is not the act itself...it's the fact that THAT is when most women in physically abusive relationships are killed. Sometimes, you can run, but you can't hide..and the police can't protect you. You have to protect yourself.Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13708815560712267698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-25384569715254141542015-06-12T07:42:58.361-06:002015-06-12T07:42:58.361-06:00They have to want it. All you can do is show them ...They have to want it. All you can do is show them how.<br /><br />Yep. I couldn't agree more.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14932408372240147454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-40803233045536017262015-06-12T07:24:25.639-06:002015-06-12T07:24:25.639-06:00there is one more, freeze, or do nothing alternati...there is one more, freeze, or do nothing alternative.FredThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08382242668090490676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-40619737138022975512015-06-12T04:18:02.295-06:002015-06-12T04:18:02.295-06:00So far Christine I have been cheering and agreeing...So far Christine I have been cheering and agreeing with you all the way... but this time I'm not sure the message is right.<br /><br />If a women is in a violent relationship, I believe flight is the best thing to do. Why on earth would one person stay in it? Morgues get a lot of women that stay in such a relationship to "save" the jerk and paid the ultimate price. <br /><br />I would not think that someone that see flight as the solution to be any mentally weaker than someone that stay to meet force with force. The best you can do, is the best you can do. <br /><br />Maybe I didn't get the message right, but I have 2 adult daughters and I wouldn't want to see them getting hurt by a bullies and do nothing about it... Richardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08738870796987568040noreply@blogger.com