tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post8737276583170357083..comments2023-09-29T04:55:41.715-06:00Comments on A Deliberate Life: The past is a rip tideChristinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13708815560712267698noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-78318905005967237992015-06-11T08:52:32.951-06:002015-06-11T08:52:32.951-06:00Our journeys are different and still the same. I w...Our journeys are different and still the same. I would have used the word boundaries. I didn't have any because my self-esteem was in the basement. Not having boundaries allows people to be really shitty to you. You allow people to be really shitty because you have no boundaries. The first boundary, of course, is your person. Who can touch you? How can they touch you? Then you get into boundaries of space and time and how someone can treat/talk to you. When you've had no boundaries and then starting putting them up, well that's rough. <br /><br />This leg will be really hard and really rewarding. It will be hard when women don't see in themselves what you see in them. It will be hard when they choose to return to an abusive relationship. The average woman tries seven times to leave her abuser. The average. It will be rewarding when someone begins to see what you're saying and does it. When you watch them discover their self worth. When they can forgive themselves for not leaving. Not doing healthy things. Not loving themselves. Not loving others. When they "get it." <br /><br />As you do this work, remember it took you six years without help. It might take someone else six with help. And they might leave and come back and leave and come back. These women will break your heart and then mend it. <br /><br />Once again, you've chosen the hard road. But then they are the most rewarding, no?Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14932408372240147454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-74754646813961267032015-06-11T08:13:53.322-06:002015-06-11T08:13:53.322-06:00Brava!Brava!Roxiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01440676304336222503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-42755564231760590972015-06-11T06:49:10.182-06:002015-06-11T06:49:10.182-06:00You have come so far. I applaud you for wanting t...You have come so far. I applaud you for wanting to give back!Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15799781800542758688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-463655558550518858.post-14270489060290872302015-06-11T03:47:09.310-06:002015-06-11T03:47:09.310-06:00Yes Christine get on that beach and bring many mor...Yes Christine get on that beach and bring many more with you... you are fantastic! :)Richardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08738870796987568040noreply@blogger.com