Whose permission do you need?

Whose permission do  you need to excel?
Whose permission do you need to not get beat?
Whose permission do you need to go to college?
Whose permission do  you need before you can lose weight?
Whose permission do you need before you can be happy?
Whose permission do you need before you can love again?
Whose permission do you  need to accept yourself?
Whose permission do you need to love your thighs?
Whose permission do you need to go to the gym tommorrow?
Whose permission do you need to find a new hobby?
Whose permission do you need to feel accepted?

When you allow others the right to dictate your happiness..your life choices...your state of being...
because you think they know what you should do.
You figuring it out and doing it.
YOU are handing the reins of your life to someone who doesn't have the manual.
And has their own agenda.
And if that person is an abuser..
then you have handed the reins of your life over..
to a manipulator who is USING YOU
to satisfy their need for control.
And while it may feel good to please them..
because you so badly want to please someone..
because you are never pleased with yourself..
it is an empty moment.
Draining you.
Not filling you.
A person who truly loves you will not attempt to grant you permission.
Will not degrade your dreams...
Will not  impede your progress...
But will support you while you find the strength within yourself to find out who you are on your own.
The only permission that is neccessary


E. Jane said...

Great food for thought and words to live by. Have a great weekend!

Gigi said...

Two things. There's a great quote by a female admiral that goes something like, "It's much easier to apologize than to get permission." (That quote changed my life.) And second, as I was "defending" myself from my father's wrong-headed accusations again me, I finally said to him, "Please allow me to be the expert on my own life." Oddly, he didn't have a response for that. Great post.

'Yellow Rose' Jasmine said...

I'm sensing something big brewing here...

As adults we sure don't need anyone's permission in life. And yet it is so hard to break the habit.

I love how you bring together so many aspects of what goes on behind weight issues.

Transformation said...

Great post....made me really think about my life and the things that remain on my to do" list.

Anonymous said...

Very good stuff. I`m going through some stuff with a friend whos like an older brother to me. This helped me get some clarity on the situation. Thank you.


Anonymous said...

Hey, Chris.

I just stopped in after a pretty long absence. Read a few back posts. Noticed the length of time since this post was done.

Picture concerned, crinkled forehead. :}

May the Lord give you wisdom, courage, insight and direction. May He bless you and keep you and cause His face to shine upon you and give you peace.

Sometimes the road gets bumpy...