our deepest fear

Hey guys, I have most everyone's weight..as it's late I won't post it tonight because it involves math.
I hate math.
I will post tomorrow....most everyone lost weight...not as much but some.
A few gained.
I noticed a common theme in the last answer and it was one that I found to be true for me as well..
it was this...
We all think we are lacking in some way.
Even though it isn't true.
We compare ourselves to others.
I think as a whole we are a very honest bunch of people..
and we view others in a more charitable light than we do ourselves.

I know I did.
I used to think everyone else had it all together and that I was the only one wallowing around,
doing it wrong.
I have found over the last three years, that when you open up to others..
some of the seemingly strongest people are just really, really good at hiding their hurts.
They have a veneer that says "I have it all together.'
but if you listen to them...after a while you figure out they have a mask on.
That's all.

The theme I keep pounding..
because I know it to be true, is this:
At any moment you can take hold of your life..
any part of it
and change it.
You may have to set things down.
Put things aside.
Hurt someone's feelings.
let things go.

Dig up old hurts and put them to rest.
Stop using food as a substitute for living..
Tell someone no.
Tell someone yes.
Be scared.
Be brave.


But you can change whatever it is you need to change.
You can make your life what you want.
It really is up to you.
And if yesterday you let yourself down..
Then today you can start again.
And don't let yourself down..not today and not tomorrow.
You are enough.
You are worth the effort.
God gave you your mind, your body and this desire to be whole and healthy.
And you are capable.

IT isn't depriving yourself to be healthy.
It is setting yourself free to be the person you want to be.
Here's a quote I like:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

It's by marianne williamson...I dont agree with all that she writes...but I agree with this.



Debrah said...

I've seen this quote before and thank you for the reminder! Especially as I'm at a new beginning in my life...my 60s.

Thrice Blessed said...

Wow, that was awesome! Hey, I've missed reading your blog, not sure why I haven't seen it for a while, but I plan to keep come back to read again soon!

'Yellow Rose' Jasmine said...

"Your playing small does not serve the world..." Such powerful words.
You are not kidding. This is so true in so many ways.
I am struggling a bit right now with this idea in a non-weight related life issue. Some people just cannot come along with you as you change no matter how much you want them to. It can be scary how much you never saw that your changing for the better could hurt someone else or just change the relationship so much that it doesn't work anymore, no matter how long or how well you've known them.
That's when it's important to remember how capable you are. How important it is to be the best you there is. Even if the change is painful, it is worth it when we discover how much more there is to ourselves than we ever could have imagined.

Rettakat said...

"You are enough.
You are worth the effort."

Very rich post, Chris. So much truth!!

Helen said...

Comparison is a thief - it steals everything that you are and were meant to be away from you. If we all could just remember that, we'd be where we want to be in no time at all!

E. Jane said...

So many of us are afraid to shine, to be noticed, because we don't think we would be loved if the world knew who we really are. Perhaps we've been told that we're not good enough, perhaps we have compared ourselves to others in an unfavorable light. This is behavior that has likely been with us since childhood, and we have to really, really work to change it.

Tammy said...

I used to have that quote up on my wall at work...must have gotten thrown away when we moved offices. I need to write it down and hang it back up! Very powerful. :)

Joy said...

Great Post Chris! A lot to think about!

Keep focused!

Anne H said...

I love A Course in Miracles.... but not so much this chicks take on it... but like you said... I DO agree with that. We aren't afraid of being a failure... but rather - of being awesome! It's our strength we fear!