Focus on you...

I told that to a friend today.
Because I believe it.
I am not precient.
I have no idea what is in  anyone's heart or mind.
I am not here to be anyone's priest.
I will be their friend.
When I see my friend struggle I will give helpful advice.
When I see my friend succeed, I will give them support.
But I learned a looooong time ago that there is only one person I can control.
You will never see me write a dishonest or misleading comment on any blog.
If I don't have something nice to say, I don't say it.
That is a personal decision, and quite frankly.
It's nobody's business how I conduct myself morally unless it infringes upon someone else's ability to live.
If I have something constructive to say.
I say it.
This blog is about My journey.
I focus on me.
I am focused on improving my life and making my way to health.
My actions speak for me.
My life speaks for me.
I don't care what anyone thinks about my unwillingness to point out others flaws or failures.
Quite frankly, I have enough flaws and failures of my own to work on.
It would be hypocrisy of the highest order to tell others they are failures for the very failure I, myself, have lived.
I don't have all the answers and I don't pretend to.
I can only tell you what I am doing.
How I am growing.
And if you want to read, you will read.
If you don't. you won't.
No loss.
Tomorrow when you get up and start your day...look in the mirror and ask yourself what kind of life you want and then live it.
The only person who is going to live and die in your body is you.
The only person who is going to have to accept the consequences of your life is you.
Not me.
Not anyone else.
So, Focus on you.

Have a great night guys,


Robin said...

Did you read my blog before you wrote this????

Christine said...

Nope. But it is how I feel. I just went and read your blog. Great minds think alike.

Dr. Fat To Fit said...

Love the new look. Love the post. Love it.

Amber said...

So there!
Good post!

Tammy said...

Good for you for not judging others and holding your tongue when you see fit. Awesome. :)

Retta said...

I wonder how many of us had Mamas that told us "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all"?! I know I did. If we all obeyed our Mamas, the world--and bloggyland--would be even nicer!

"And if you want to read, you will read.
If you don't. you won't.
No loss."

Ha ha ha .... guess we all need to put that in our sidebars! ;-)


carla said...

agreed agreed agreed
for me I finally realized Id never be successful (to MY definition in ANY realm) as long as I focused on others and tried to guess what they thought I should do.

or tell THEM what to do.

It never works huh?

M Pax said...

Great insight, Chris. :)

When I quit caring what anyone else thinks, life changed for the better. It was the way I thought when I was young. I'm glad I found my way back. Glad you found your way there.